I just finished catching up on all my DVRed shows. The DVR is set to record certain shows every week or every day. For instance, Oprah. I truly love that show when it is good. That’s the nice thing about DVR. I can just fast forward through all the crap or erase a show that doesn’t interest me.
I swear I cry over something I see on Oprah at least three times a week. What a sap.
Did anyone see her shows on when and how to talk to your kids about sex? Wow. I’m no prude, but I am seriously dreading having that talk with my girls. I did not have the talk with my mom until the deed was already done and I was terribly resistant to anything she had to tell me.
My mom was a terrible snoop back in the day and I wasn’t about to go to her with any questions. Anything I would have told her would have been told to my aunts, sister, dad, etc. How mortifying. I didn’t even tell her when I got my period and she didn’t find out for six months after.
All things reproductive embarrassed the hell out of me. If my mom hung my bra on the clothesline, I wanted to die. If a love scene came on Dallas or Falcon Crest, I ran out of the room. So the lines of communication were not good. I had a set of 4 encyclopedias, that I still have, published circa 1965, that taught me all that I knew back in grade school.
Just watching the mom on the show give the talk to her daughter, wow. I don’t want to do it, but I know I have to in order to have a healthy relationship with my kids. I want them to be able to come to me with anything and not be ashamed, embarrassed, etc. My God, I was 26, married and having to tell my mom and dad that I was pregnant with Ashley was so embarrassing. It was like stating, “Hey folks, I had sex”. So I definitely want things to be better for my kids. I also don’t want my daughters sneaking off to K-Mart buying “things” and hoping for the best or sneaking around and cutting class in order to visit a clinic to get birth control pills. Thanks Michelle for driving that day when I chickened out 🙂
The doctor on the show has a downloadable handbook on Oprah’s website. Gulp. She’s got some controversial stuff in there for the teenagers, but I guess it’s better coming from a parent than a friend on the bus. It’s not like they won’t find out about it on their own.
I’ve got a few years before I have to worry (I hope). So far the questions coming from my kids have been pretty easy to answer.